Mongi Phawulotando Matyolo "Smile is Contagious"

Mongi Phawulotando Matyholo is a young bubbly, sweet, strong  and caring  guy with  big dreams that scare me out.I have always been unique and self-cautious from the rest of my homeboys.You would never found me getting dirty and sweaty, rather I would be studying or  doing some cooking.I used to make coffee  for my grannies everyday.I enjoyed doing it.

Growing up I always had a nose for news.:I always wanted to be the person that informs people.Studying journalism at  Tshwane University Of Technology (TUT),gave me  the courage that the dream of being a qualified journalist and  a radio presenter is now  in the palm of my hand.

I was born and bred n the lower parts of the Eastern Cape in Port st.Johns. I am the second born out of four siblings. I grew up with grannies all my life. My mother was always away with work. In my upbringing I’ve been encircled with my male cousins’, I  was the youngest , that left me no choice but  always fight for my lane. Whenever there was quarrel or quibble I had to stand my ground.

I enjoy meeting people to keep me company when I am not in my own place. I don’t make friends at all. I am very caution of who I bring into my life. Just because I talk or mingle with you, that doesn’t mean you are my friend. My circle is very small.

An achievement to me means something that positively changed my life. Back in 2015, during my gap year, I worked at a campus Radio station, Madibaz Radio in Nelson Mandela Metropolitan University (NMMU) that for me embraced my passion and love for radio. I hosted an hour show; it was basically a music show. I enjoyed each end every moment of myself on air. By the way I am a radio junk.

I see or regard myself as strongest 19 year old who has walked this earth.I have stumble upon many  hiccups in my years in this world. But daily growth has whirled  me from being  a quibble or nonsensical entertainer .I’ve reached a point where I don’t pay attention to negative things that don’t cultivate me in anyway .I do retaliate when people take advantage of my kindness. I believe that “Smile is transmissible”. My last attire before I walk out of my closet space is my smile.

People have been asking, why I am always jovial and full of euphoria, my response is “Distancing and detaching” .I distance myself from nonsensical stuff and detach myself from life-derailing things, like irrationally comparing myself to others.

 I always try to see things from distance and from a different perspective. I am very a big fan of “Now”. By that I mean I live in a “Now Life”.Yhea pretty sure you asking what does it mean? I mean living in every moment. Thinking about coming things torments and infringes ones happiness.

 

Those close to me know that I always say “Life goes on”.And it does. After everything that is happening or has happened. Life goes on. I believe that I was created to be me, not a stencil of someone else. I do not have to be applauded and treasured by many. If something I do gratifies my heart and brings the “Contagious smile” to my face, it’s done. 

I never wanted or want to be a people pleaser because that would vehemently push me to be a two-faced person.Then if I was blind, how many people  would I please?.NONE.I’ am one-eyed person in a world full of two-eyed persons.

My biggest strength of pillar is my mother, Nokuthula.The women is my heroine, my best friend and more!She is the most courageous, brazen  women I’ve ever known. My dad, Fundile, that man is an example of a true father. I am so grateful to have him and call him dad. He has showed me steady, unconditional and sincere love through my shameful and lowest moments.

Zimasa,Lwanda and Zingisa,my siblings are truly an inspiration. I could’ve not asked for any better siblings. My grandparents and family at large just encourages me to be a survivor and fighter.

In life I have learnt that people always try to have the ultimate remote-control device, that allow them to control their personal universe, including muting, skipping and dubbing their lives. They also fast-forward to the best parts of their lives. Which leaves them to the superficial phase of their lives.

Not everyone I meet has the best interest at heart for me.  I sometimes meet a person who is against my instincts, but I ignore and give that person the benefit of the doubt. Only to realize later, that the person was not the right  person. People will smile counterfeited at you. Be watchful.

Throughout my life I have been faced with a parade of changing faces; acquaintances disguised an influencer,first were grade school classmates,then high schoolmates.Followed by tertiary mates.The proximity of those people in my everyday life makes me feel as if I should be micromanaging my relationship with them.I end up feeling stressed and inadequate,wondering why i can never seem to keep everyone happy at the same time.

I am never meant  to deeply connect with every person who wanders in my life.Be kind to everyone!